Morning Fog

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Time to come clean.
I was in denial for awhile, but am slowly coming around.

A very observant reader (who thought she was missing something, but really wasn’t) wondered when Sprite (darling daughter) got married?

I never, except for twice briefly and very recently, mentioned this. I certainly never announced, elaborated or even discussed it. I was secretly hoping she would have one of those “I could have had a V-8” moments and, oh, gotten it annulled or something.

So here is a little background.

Y’all might remember that she met, and fell into heavy dating immediately, a strapping young Cowboy/Marine about a year and a half ago. July ’06, to be exact. By early December they were engaged, despite our protestations for millions of reasons, with a teensy diamond on her finger and a fiance who was facing a year-long deployment to parts unknown, including the possibility of going back to Iraq.

There was no talking to her, she did not see the sense in waiting until he came back to get engaged, and did not agree that waiting until she graduated from college to get married was a smart move. But with such a long separation facing them, I figured the odds were good that they would drift apart in some way. She is quite the social butterfly and thought she’d fall for some other guy, frankly, ring on her finger or not.

Then he came home for a month-long leave August 1st. He had been gone for 7 months. She drove up to LA to pick him up, and they were going to go to Disneyland. I think I wrote that, actually, at the time. Instead, they drove to Las Vegas and got married. They did not tell us though.

Here is the thing, though. The second day they were back, I found the marriage certificate. So I knew, but they hadn’t told us. Quandry ensued. Mostly because I knew he was going away again for another 4 months and Mr. Wonderful would hit the roof if he found out. Would he kick her out? Would he not pay her tuition? I didn’t know what to do, so I didn’t say anything. Secretly I was happy that they weren’t just sleeping together, which makes me feel WAAAAAYYYYY too much my mother, but there it is. I said nothing. Not even here, which was weird, but there was the whole denial thing in my brain, coupled with not telling my husband so I just wanted to ignore it.

At the end of the month, right before they were leaving for LA (she was dropping him off at the airport and coming back), as we were saying our good-byes, he told us. I felt very proud that he obviously didn’t want to leave without us knowing, and sensed that she didn’t know how to tell us. So it was out. Mr. Wonderful was so shocked that he didn’t even notice that I wasn’t.

It was weird the last few months, but we just hung in there. She stayed at home and kept working and going to school, and right before he came back for Christmas, she found them an apartment. We are starting to come to grips with this now that he is back. The fact that they almost died together on an icy road in Montana certainly puts “marriage” in perspective, since it probably won’t kill them.

I have to say that she is very happy. He is very happy. The ironic thing is that through the last year and a half since they met, they have been married for 5 and have yet to be alone! Except for a night or two. They have been with family here or there, and as soon as they got into their apartment, his brother (along with his wife and baby) are moving in with them for 2 weeks until HE gets sent back to Iraq. For the 4th time, I might add. So then they will finally be alone. Unless somebody else drops in! I hope they still love each other when it is just the two of them.

Anyway, that is the story. My daughter is married. She is turning 20 on Tuesday, and I certainly never expected her to be married this young, but maybe it is the right thing for her. She is staying in school, and as long as they don’t have any babies for awhile to further complicate their lives, maybe they will do okay.

I got this from Diane.
It makes me wonder where any of my rants and cynicism come from really. I should just be humming and smiling, shouldn’t I?
I will redo this after I’ve been back in school for a couple of weeks and see how it looks.

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